I’m going to work to tone down my outspokenness. Mainly means learning to be more patient and reserved. I think it’ll be a lot more peaceful for everyone. Also me. But also everyone.

I don’t know why but for me, one of the most resonating posts on here is the one where I was processing the realization that someone who reported to me straight up lied about what they did on the job, because I was sent the messages evidencing that they typed exactly what they said they didn’t.

Then, I chose not to show my hand or true thoughts, and this person probably still doesn’t know I was sent explicit stuff. I just took actions and other opportunities to assert the right stuff about getting good work across, and everything worked out without focusing on bozo’s bozoness.

Last part’s the lesson. Next part’s the question: can I shape my inclinations so I want to hold my hand more often? And it’s a challenge because people have a way of acting out when they don’t feel expressed, and I want to avoid that nonsense too.

I think if I did more pausing and “does this need to be said” and “should it really be said now” and “are the prerequisites to have this conversation probably go well in place” and “maybe I could focus on something constructive and let silence on the destructive thing do the talking” ….well there’s a courageous way to do it, and I’m certain that the results would be more conscientious to the point that they’ll probably be smarter.