Downloading a game I think I’ll like oh boy oh boy)
I have some family who means well, but their advice or decisions can be terrible. Let’s just say I’ve been asked to go in on a venture where all the evidence and history and reasoning makes one decision clear to me.
And said family has the intimacy and gall to be forthright with the weirdest pushinesses that I think can even be dangerous. And I want to be agreeable and nice, but let’s just simplify and say that the ask seems like a terrible idea for me.
Now this is cognitive dissonance territory. Imagine an ask with such an unpleasant MO from people who also want to be pleasant… but the outcome isn’t pleasant. It’s cause to reconsider, and this is that nebulla where principals can get folded into inconsistency. Black and white thinking sucks – yep. But that doesn’t mean to be so flexible that one becomes agreeable to things they know better than.
You know what else sucks? Not having a line where you go “I’m sorry but I can’t just accept that outcome” can be even worse.
Anyway the eye opener for me here was the emotional cloud that I felt as I churned this over and started to make up schemas to make-it-probably-work. What a cloud.
Like yes, I’d woke up in a worse mood and felt less positive in my everyday predisposition — that was enough for me alone to realize that I’m gonna have to give a hard no to said ask. Even thinking it over makes me feel like shit — therefore it just might be a terrible idea.
EZ BLUF: wish I could say otherwise, but no.
Eric is the Best 