Great thing I read while browsing reddit:
“You may have accidentally setup an asshole filter for yourself.
To summarize briefly: “An asshole filter happens when you publicly promulgate a straitened contact boundary and then don’t enforce it; or worse, reward the people who transgress it.”
For instance, if you respond to flirting by playing hard to get or flirting with other people to arouse jealousy, you’re inadvertently turning away healthy partners who respect your (signaled) lack of interest by leaving you alone, resulting in your dating pool being composed solely of aggressive people who may disrespect your boundaries, or are overly jealous. Take time to self-reflect and consider going to therapy if this dating problem is as serious as you make it sound. Best of luck.”